Dear Aunt Tabby,
My friend got an expensive kitten from a breeder and I’m so mad about it. I really want to say something. I follow Save A Cat on Facebook and try my best to educate my friends on family on how many cats are euthanized every year and how badly these wonderful animals need homes. It feels like a betrayal for her to do this. I don’t even want to go to her house to meet the kitten. What do I do? I don’t want to lose a long friendship over this but I’m really upset.
Adopt Don’t Shop
Aunt Tabby’s Advice
Dear Adopt Don’t Shop,
I really get where you are coming from. It can be very upsetting when a friend or family member buys a kitten from a breeder or pet shop and I know the urge to lecture is strong. I feel it too sometimes but I’ve decided for myself that it’s better to educate and share information than to lecture. You have a good heart and I’m sure your friend has a good heart as well, he or she just may not be educated on how many cats need homes. Some people know, but just don’t care. We can’t control everyone around us or make other people follow our beliefs or we are going to end up friendless and in the psychiatric ward.
There are some things you can do.
Share information on your social media bout adoption to help educate your friends and family.
Invite your friend to join you as you go to the shelter to donate blankets, pillows and old cat toys. Sometimes all it takes is one trip to the animal shelter to really open someone’s eyes as to the extent of the problems faced by homeless cats.
You could also make a donation to a local cat rescue in honor of your friend’s recent purchase.
It’s important to help educate others and when we climb on our advocacy high horse and preach the gospel to people who aren’t ready to hear it, we can alienate people who may end up being our allies with a little education.