Whether it’s your first night with someone or you are with a long-term partner, having your cat stare at you from the foot of the bed probably was not a part of either of your fantasies. We all know having a cat has plenty of perks, but having them swipe at your feet as you are getting freaky with your boo is not one of them. Feel like your kitty is putting a dent in your sex life? Here’s how to keep your cat from interrupting your sexy time, because sometimes the only fur we want in the bed is on the handcuffs on the bed post.
1. Put Kitty On The Floor When Things Get Romantic
If your cat is particularly playful and sees you and your lover rolling around on the bed, they may see it as an invitation to join in on the fun. Cats that are used to sleeping in bed with you may not understand why you suddenly don’t want them in bed now. You can train your cat that they are not allowed in the bed when you have company or just put them outside of the bedroom and shut the door.
2. Set Clear Boundaries
Some cats may mark your bed when you are done having your sexy time. While this might not directly affect your sex life, the lingering smell of cat pee on your pillows isn’t exactly a mood setter, either. Some cats feel the need to mark their territory including your bed. Your cat may see your bed as HIS bed and when another person is in it, he may feel the need to make sure that person knows who is the boss of the bed. If your cat keeps marking in your bed, consider getting your cat their own separate sleeping/relaxing space. This way, your cat will not feel as threatened by the presence of another human “taking over their turf.” You also may want to start making your bed a “no cat” zone. If your cat seems to think the bed belongs to her or him, you are going to have to set some boundaries and send a clear message that the bed is yours and yours alone.
(If your cat is marking inappropriately all over your home, talk to your vet. The two of you may need to come up with a behavior modification plan, or there may be a medical reason as to why your cat is marking)
3. Keep Things Clean And Fresh
Some people are allergic to cats. If your partner is allergic this can be tricky – you love your cat, but you are also really, really into this new person you are seeing. Unfortunately, allergies are just a part of life for some people. If your partner is allergic to cats, there are several steps you need to take to make sure that not only your partner is comfortable and healthy, but that your cat is as well. Be sure to keep your bedding clean, dust, vacuum and you may even want to keep your cat out of your bedroom for a few days leading up to your big date. Cleaning the litter box several times a day, and keeping your kitty groomed will help keep your bae’s allergies at bay as well.
4. Your Cat Is Not The Boss
What happens if your cat really does not like your date? Most cats, if annoyed or anxious, will leave the room and find a very discreet hiding space. If your cat does this EVERY time your partner comes over, your cat may feel threatened by his or her presence. There’s no need to force a connection or bond. Try leaving a sock with your partner’s scent near your cat’s toys. This way, your cat will slowly get used to your partner’s smell and associate it with something good: playtime! If your cat continues to avoid your love, that’s okay. There’s no need to make things happen. It will all work out.
5. Your Cat Is Judging You
Nothing spoils post sexy time pillow talk like a glare from your cat that could drill a hole through you and your partner’s skull. Many people feel weird when they receive what they interpret as a “judgmental” look from their cat after having sex. If you are one of these people, give yourself a quick pinch and remind yourself that your cat is not the boss. (Also, your cat is not judging you like you think. Just give them a friendly “hello” and get on with your day.)
Has your cat ever killed the mood? What was the behavior and what did you do to curb it? Let us know in the comments.