Life With Cats: Dating Someone Who Is Allergic To Cats

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(Picture Credit: Getty Images)

My cat, Pookie, can be a bit of a diva. She insists on lounging on the foot of my bed, MUST be fed at 6:30AM sharp, and needs constant affection, but only on her terms.

Despite her diva tendencies, I love this cat. I cannot imagine my life without her silly antics or dramatic meows for treats. She’s my baby.

So, you can imagine the pickle I am in dating someone who is very, very allergic to cats. At first he tried to play it off and simply pop an antihistamine, but it wasn’t cutting it. After spending a few hours at my place, my boyfriend would be sneezy, itchy, and even a bit wheezy. We’re talking serious.

The idea of having to pick between Pookie and my boyfriend seemed unfair. Why can’t we have it all? Pet ownership is not something to be taken lightly. Getting rid of Pookie isn’t even an option but I’d also like to be able to have my boyfriend over to my place without him feeling like death. CatTime has a ton of tips on how to keep allergens at bay, but for those of us fortunate enough to be allergy free, taking care of your place for someone who does have allergies can be a big lifestyle change. Here are a few precautions I’ve been taking to insure that both Pookie and my boyfriend are comfortable in my apartment.

1. No Cats In The Bedroom

I felt terrible implementing this, as my bed is also Pookie’s bed. Lounging on the bottom corner right where the sun hits through the window is Pookie’s personal haven. I felt like a bad cat parent taking it away from her, but nearly every allergist agrees: the bedroom should be as allergen-free as possible.

To make it up to her, I got my princess cat a new Cat Scratcher Lounge that is all her own. I placed the Cat Scratcher Lounge right under a window in my living room, so she still gets some luxurious sun and my boyfriend is able to breathe a little easier at night.

For those unwilling to kick kitty out of the bedroom I have a friend who has cat allergies and owns cats, she took a large comforter and places it on top of her bed and pillows for her pets to lounge on during the day and simply peels it back, folds it up and puts it in the closet before crawling into bed.


HEPA stands for high-effciency particulate air. It is a mechanical air filter that is fine enough to trap things such as pollen, pet dander, dust mites, and other allergens. Using a regular vacuum may help with excess fur around the house, but it may also be kicking allergens up into the air. I use the compact VonHaus vacuum cleaner, which has a HEPA filter. It has honestly made a difference compared to just vacuuming. Be sure to vacuum places such as area rugs and carpeted rooms extra thoroughly, as they are natural traps for fur that has been shed.

There are also HEPA air filters available. Although they are pricey, they are definitely worth it. Smaller ones, such as the GermGuardian, work in smaller spaces such as a bedroom or office, but you may want to get several for throughout your place.

If you’re dealing with bad allergies you may need to clean your house from top to bottom a few times a week (3 times a week would make a huge difference in your life and doesn’t take as long as you think it will). Start at the top and work your way down. Begin by dusting and wiping lamps, picture frames, tables and surfaces, then finish with vacuuming and sweeping up everything that’s fallen to the floor. It really makes a difference in the life of someone suffering from allergies who can’t imagine life without pets.

(Picture Credit: Getty Images)

(Picture Credit: Getty Images)

3. Bathe Your Cat Frequently

If you are able to bathe your cat, be sure to do that weekly or bi-weekly, or right before an allergy afflicted guest is coming to visit. Washing your cat will loosen up and get rid of dander down the drain instead of around your house. If your cat is NOT a fan of baths…try something like Allerpet for Cats once a week. I have been using it on Pookie, and it seems to not only help with my boyfriend’s allergies, but her coat seems shinier, too. Another reason Allerpet is nice is because you need zero water to use it: simply work the formula into your cat’s coat and wipe off.

4. Clean That Litter Box Several Times A Day

A lot of people assume that allergens are strictly in the dander of a cat. Did you know that cat urine plays a HUGE part in human allergies to cats? Be sure to clean out your cat’s litter box as often as possible and use a litter that is not going to get dusty and float up into the air. Check out some of our reviews of cat litter and see which one fits not only an allergy sufferer’s needs, but your cat’s needs as well.

5. Talk About Medication Options

For some, simply taking over-the-counter allergy medication is enough. Sometimes, however, that is not enough. You could scrub and vacuum your house and cat day-in and day-out, but it may only help a little bit. Have your significant other talk to his or her doctor about allergy solutions, such as steroid shots or prescription nasal sprays. If you are going to great lengths to make sure your partner is comfortable in your home with your cat, they can meet you halfway and speak to their doctor.

I am hoping that over time, my boyfriend’s immune system shapes up and is able to tolerate Pookie sans all of these aforementioned bells and whistles. His immune system has tolerated different cats in the past, so hopefully Pookie fits this bill as well. People can develop immunity to an animal they are allergic to over time. It could take a few weeks or months depending on the allergy.

Other things you can do is to make sure you’re wearing clean clothes and that you yourself wash and bathe before spending time with your beloved. I always wash my hands and face before touching my boyfriend.

Are you involved or do you live with someone with severe cat allergies? What do you do to make sure both your cat and partner are comfortable in your space? Let us know in the comments below.